20 Oct 2005


Spinning Girl says:
It really bothers me when people, especially women, apologize for no reason. For example, yesterday I was at the gym and I sat down on a bench to take off my sneakers, and the woman next to me said. “oh, I’m sorry.” I looked at her and said, “for what?” and she said, “for taking up so much room.” She wasn’t; only the amount of room that her rearend covered, which was average-sized.

I started noticing a few years ago how often women do this, and it pisses me off.

My standard answer has become, “for what? Don’t apologize!” Maybe I can change the world, one woman at a time. But I doubt it.

Women apologize for taking up space. Even the way they – we – sit is apologetic, arms & legs folded to as small a shape as possible. I notice that men, when they sit, sit with their legs apart & take up as much space as possible. Without apology… read the rest


  • nathan
    October 21, 2005 Reply

    hahahah chad.

    yeah well i also have an opinion (as follows):

    women cross their legs because they’ve been trained to over the years of wearing dresses. its so all of us guys can’t see what they have to offer, particularly in the cases when that is all they have to offer.

    and frankly, if women don’t want to cross their legs then they shouldn’t. maybe if they weren’t such namby pambies (in general, that is) they wouldn’t have allowed themselves to fall from the supreme matriarchs they were in pagan times to their current position as rub a dub doves.

  • chadswope
    October 20, 2005 Reply

    oh, whoops, i didn’t realize that was from the goddess site. *overturns chair and desk**takes off sprinting*

  • chadswope
    October 20, 2005 Reply

    that’s rediculous to think arms and legs folded is related to that in any way. if anything the difference is because most men’s limbs are stronger and so need to balance that weight out for comfort sake. women tend to have more strength (relatively) in the core and have more flexibility allowing the crossing of their legs to be more comfortable. and the crossing of the arms is, if symbolic in any way, known for it’s stubbornness or defiance.

    i, too, though, find it usually odd and unnecessary when people apologize overmuch and over nothing but it’s basically just like talking about the weather. it’s pointless if you are judgmental or unfriendly, but if you are polite and looking to make friends saying ‘oh, sorry there,’ is less an example of the person’s over-apologetic nature and more one of their easy-goingness and openness to conversation.

    don’t make something out of nothing

  • Rabes at school
    October 20, 2005 Reply

    We also like to think that we have big ones.

  • fly*
    October 20, 2005 Reply

    oh im sorry…. :o)

  • Albear
    October 20, 2005 Reply

    There is a simple reason why men take up more space than women and dont apologise.. thats cos we are more important!!

  • Ndundu
    October 20, 2005 Reply

    That’s soooooo true…!!!
    But I thought apologising is polite!

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