So why does one ever feel like that? Certain people you just have a hard to time feeling comfortable with. Who’s fault? It always feels like mine because I don’t feel comfortable.

I don’t think you can start out by being silent and giving space at first, unless the person seems to dictate that you should. For me, it’s how the person verbally responds and with what tone. If the first response makes me feel comfortable, then we’re good.

Also, too much comfort can be a bad thing. Something nathan may have hit on, it makes you complacent. This is why I thought Shawn started making me shake his hand when he came in the door.

I guess I just associate being able to sit with someone in silence as the ultimate comfort. If you can be content just being around someone and not feeling like “Fuck, what should I talk about now? We haven’t spoken in ages!” when it’s only been a few minutes, well then for me, you’re right on target.

And if a person isn’t genuine, I doubt you’d feel safe around them. If you knew they weren’t being genuine.

But if you realized that they were, really and truly being truthful and honest with you, well you could determine quite quickly whether or not they’d share your secrets or if you’d be able to communicate an idea with them.