Comments on: A life without boundaries?

By: } bird {

} bird { — Sun, 21 Nov 2010 22:37:15 +0000

I love what you said about having no expectations. It has been very healing and freeing to be able to let past betrayals and hurts go, simply by realising that a lot of the time, people dont know any better. and even when they do, they simply can’t do better. and its not personal.

Im trying to not have any expectations of anyone. Its challenging.

By: denisek

denisek — Sun, 21 Nov 2010 14:50:07 +0000

haha what you are doing is called boundaries. that innervoice what is good for you is called boundaries. i so agree with everything you said and it is so sad what it takes to to love ourselves enough to take care of our selves. that little voice inside helps me determine how much i will receive back from people whether it is a relationship based on giving or a mutual loving healthy relationship. some relationships are just what i call God given to do service work to help others on their journey and to allow him to fill my cup because the people i am in relationship are not capable of filling only emptying. in those relationships i have no expectations from them because i know they can not do that. that innervoice which i call God and boundaries leads me

By: } bird {

} bird { — Sat, 20 Nov 2010 20:57:31 +0000

I love you so much Denise.

what you have said here, I cannot deny, has worked out incredibly well for you. It is EXACTLY RIGHT for you and has had incredible results in your life.

The thing about people with no boundaries hitting rock bottom and being lost, we both know about pretty well. and in a recent example too which I won’t ever talk about here. but I dont think boundaries is the real problem, it just appears to be, and was the main thing I always complained about… but now I’m rethinking it. its not listening to his inner guiding voice, but dulling it with distractions that is the problem. flagrantly disregarding others boundaries is one of the distractions too. Creating constant chaos, keeps the mind completely distracted from pain. Sometimes fear is even preferred to pain, for some.

I’m going to try this no boundaries thing out for a while. I will always respect others boundaries, because I know how important they were to me one time too. I remember how I believed it kept me safe. But as far as others crossing mine, they will regardless if they really want to, just like they always have and always will. Even the ones who love me.

So I’m just going to be open to experiencing new things that before I wouldn’t have considered, and exercise my right to just walk away, any time my inner guide tells me to. Towards the things that feel right for me.

So for example, if someone gives me a creepy feeling, I will naturally just energetically move away from them and the things they eminate, using my inner instincts as the navigator towards or away from new experiences.

I realise I’m not making much sense, but I’m feeling this one out and its not really possible to put the idea into words. All I can do is try it out for some time and see how it works. And then write about it later.

By: denise

denise — Fri, 19 Nov 2010 13:44:36 +0000

boundaries i spent my whole life trying to figure out what they were. it is not about any one but our selves it is the core of being ,it is what we believe in and value and at no cost are we willing to sacrifice it.when we love and respect our selves it is not work to hold up thees boundaries. we are able to decide how a relationship goes based on how much respect a person respects who we are.people who have no boundaries do not respect others with no boundaries.they are lost. most people with out boundaries are lonely lost people and until they hit a bottom and decide how to get back up they will not truely know what they value. rember some people are placed in our lives and we are the teachers for a short time and when the lessoned is learned is not for us to decide. i so loved what your mom said and i will talk later

By: } bird {

} bird { — Fri, 19 Nov 2010 00:00:02 +0000

Wow. Yes it does. Every paragraph. Hmm. Hmmmmm. I think I can also embrace the idea of having boundaries at my core while at the same time completely accepting others and loving them just as they are, even if they try to cross them or dont share the same boundaries. When I think about how I would never ever torture an animal, that is a boundary for sure and that will never change. It is absolutely integral to my nature.

The rest of what I want to say, I’m emailing to you, to respect his privacy.