{"id":3568,"date":"2007-04-08T11:54:55","date_gmt":"2007-04-08T15:54:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.yummy-wakame.com\/archives\/2007\/04\/08\/3568"},"modified":"2007-04-08T11:54:55","modified_gmt":"2007-04-08T15:54:55","slug":"getting-over-resentment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/yummy-wakame.com\/weblog\/2007\/04\/getting-over-resentment\/","title":{"rendered":"Getting over resentment"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A few months ago I <a href=\"http:\/\/www.innerself.com\/Behavior_Modification\/dyer03273.htm\" rel=\"external\">read this page<\/a> after a tipoff from my good friend <a href=\"http:\/\/www.clickforlessons.com\/provider\/SingingDiva\/Profile.aspx\" rel=\"external\">Beverley<\/a>. While I don&#8217;t agree 100{a9f0d31f6175b3e4775e11a66c07db268fb74408d6095f6b46eeec420c0e9f62} with everything he wrote or how he wrote it, he is definitely onto something big and I do agree with most of the things he has to say. I&#8217;ve been carrying around these ideas for some time now and in many ways I&#8217;ve noticed profound transformations happening in my life from taking on board his suggestions. I spotted the link in my favourites today and thought it might also help a few people who come here&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><strong>An excerpt from<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/www.innerself.com\/Behavior_Modification\/dyer03273.htm\" rel=\"external\">Are Resentments Justified<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>You hear people say this all the time: <em>&#8220;I have a right to be upset because of the way I&#8217;ve been treated. I have a right to be angry, hurt, depressed, sad, and resentful.&#8221;<\/em> Learning to avoid this kind of thinking is one of my top ten secrets for living a life of inner peace, success, and happiness. Anytime you&#8217;re filled with resentment, you&#8217;re turning the controls of your emotional life over to others to manipulate.<\/p>\n<p>I became aware of how powerful this lesson was many years ago while sitting in on a meeting of 12 people who were in a recovery group for alcoholism and drug addiction. All 12 of those people were accustomed to blaming others for their weaknesses, using almost any excuse as a rationale for returning to their self-defeating ways. On a poster hanging in the room were these words: &#8220;In this group, there are no justified resentments.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Regardless of what anyone would say to another group member, no matter how confrontational or ugly the accusations, each person was reminded that there are no justified resentments. You may need to consider whom you resent before you can make your own choice about whether this is useful for you. Resentments give you an excuse to return to your old ways. This is what got you there in the first place!<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><strong>You can read the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.innerself.com\/Behavior_Modification\/dyer03273.htm\" rel=\"external\">rest of the article here&#8230;<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A few months ago I read this page after a tipoff from my good friend Beverley. While I don&#8217;t agree 100{a9f0d31f6175b3e4775e11a66c07db268fb74408d6095f6b46eeec420c0e9f62} with everything he wrote or how he wrote it, he is definitely onto something big and I do agree with most of the things he has to say. I&#8217;ve been carrying around these ideas [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[212,213,223],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3568","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-blogalog","category-food-for-thought","category-the-pursuit-of-happiness"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/yummy-wakame.com\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3568","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/yummy-wakame.com\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/yummy-wakame.com\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yummy-wakame.com\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yummy-wakame.com\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3568"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/yummy-wakame.com\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3568\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/yummy-wakame.com\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3568"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yummy-wakame.com\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3568"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/yummy-wakame.com\/weblog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3568"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}