How to detect lies
“The following techniques to telling if someone is lying are often used by police, and security experts. This knowledge is also useful for managers, employers, and for anyone to use in everyday situations where telling the truth from a lie can help prevent you from being a victim of fraud/scams and other deceptions.
Warning: Sometimes ignorance is bliss; after gaining this knowledge, you may be hurt when it is obvious that someone is lying to you.”
Hmm… yes, I’d agree with this. Also, as someone who has studied body language since I was tiny, its become second nature to me now. But if you don’t let it hurt you when someone lies to your face, and take the opportunity to read the other subtle signs while they are lying to you, you will find the truth. Everyone leaks, its just a question of finding the leak.
Cait
Sometimes we do. Victims will sometimes lie to us or to the police. I’ve often had officers ask me what I tought about a victim’s story, what my impressions were, what I saw.
olivia
HAHAHAHAH! No it doesn’t.
Fuschia Faery
Ha ha, very funny Livvy! I didn’t tell the whole world, only the people I met on the weekend. And my friends, and published it on my blog, and commented on it on yours. Ok, maybe I did. But wouldn’t you? This sort of thing just doesn’t happen every day 🙂
olivia
Ooh we synched!
olivia
I totally agree with you Chad. There are so many unknowns to factor in, like maybe the person you’re talking to hasnt slept properly in weeks so has all sorts of weird facial “ticks” going on, or the person is under pressure to appear truthful when telling the truth so is behaving self-consciously or defensively.
And thanks Faerie. The new site was only launched on Monday. The info about your line manager is very interesting. I dont know why they’d tell you not to talk about it, its not like you’d end up telling the whole world! HAHAHA
So Cait, do you use these sorts of techniques in your line of work?
ClickNathan
Yeah, while I agree that the average man could be read via body language…well, I don’t know. Liars, the goods ones (I know one or two very well), well we, I mean they, know what they’re doing.
How else do I get so much sick time off of work?
Chad A. S.
I’m really having trouble with this post. It is so much more important to go with your gut feeling after witnessing how the person has acted than searching for signs. If you look for signs I feel you will fail more of the time. Trust that you will see the signs, but don’t let them overrule your instincts!
Fuschia Faery
Wow, I don’t come take a peek here for a little while and it all changes it’s look. The new design is AMAZING!!! Well done, it’s so artistic.
It has only been a little while hasn’t it?
Oh yeah, the thread – body language gives a lot away. I’m not allowed to talk about it (here goes though) my line managers missing, he’s disappeared from his life and has a missing person report out on him. He had some dodgy body language – shifty eyes avoiding contact, wouldn’t stand face on to you, nervous energy with kicking his desk. Body language shows so much, it only makes sense for police to use it!
Well done again!!!
Cait
Crossing the arms when telling a lie. It’s a defensive gesture. Very hard to read this one, but doing the little wrinkle thing (vertical) between the eyebrows is a sign of a lie. I’ve actually seen visuals done on this, and it’s very hard to catch, but it’s almost always an indicator.
Chad A. S.
“Gestures/expressions don’t match the verbal statement, such as frowning when saying “I love you.â€
haha, my favorite.
I agree with a few of the commenters on that page. Do not think someone is lying because you notice them using some of that body language. When I tell someone the truth about something that they might not be likely to believe, I use excessive detail. Others might not know this, but when I try to lie, guilt locks up my brain, and I can’t say hardly anything. However, if I decide to lie about something trivial, and with the intention of quickly after saying I was lying, I can lie with the best of them.