Wow, this idea is spot on with something I’m really trying to work on but couldn’t find the words for…

“The capacity to be alone is the capacity to love. It may look paradoxical to you but it is not. It is an essential truth. Only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core into the other person without becoming dependent on the other, reducing the other into a thing, and without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know if the other leaves they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness can not be taken by the other because it is not given by the other.

Then why do they want to be together? It is no longer a need, it is a luxury. They enjoy sharing, they have so much joy they would like to pour into somebody. They know how to play their life as a solo instrument. The solo flute player knows how to enjoy his flute alone and if he comes and finds a solo tabla player, both will enjoy being together and to create a harmony between the flute and the tabla.”
— Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh

It’s interesting how togetherness should be the luxury. For years I have lived as if togetherness was essential and time alone was a luxury. While I am a creature that loves to cuddle and to share daily life and discoveries with someone special, and while I know that nothing will ever change that, at the same time… I know I had it all the wrong way around. I know this because when I really examine things, I wasn’t happy.